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Monday, May 25, 2015

The Roles and Responsibilities of Mothers filling in for Absentee Mothers

There are times when a mother is not able to take care of her children.  She needs someone she can trust and who has the same family values as she has.  A top priority need is when mom goes to the hospital to deliver another child, or when an illness or operation requires hospitalization.  That is when friends and neighbors come to the forefront.   If the children have been brought up according to the following scriptural advice, this will be a fun and fulfilling experience for every one involved. Even when they do not have the foundation of scripture, you, as a believer, can minister to them in love because you do have the truth of the scripture.
 
Proverbs 22:6 – “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old  he will not depart from it.”

Ephesians 6: vs. 1,2,3 – “Children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.  Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise:  “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”

Even though I only gave birth to one child, I have been blessed all of my adult life with many opportunities to be a positive influence on other peoples’ children.  I am also being blessed in my senior and retirement years by living in close proximity to my grand daughter and my five great grandchildren.

Here are some examples from my own life that might trigger your imagination as to how God might use you.. In my early married years we lived in a neighborhood of young couples with young children and many pregnant mothers.  God had placed me right in the middle of where I would be needed the most. Long after my daughter grew out of her crib, I kept it in case one of the neighbors’ babies needed a place to nap while the mom went grocery shopping.  I didn’t know it at the time, but God was training me to care for multiple children for my future ministry even though I only had one of my own.  My daughter was also happy to have other children to play with in her own home.

We had a humorous situation arise when I enrolled my little girl in Nursery School at age four.  She was picked up each day by the school’s station wagon driver who lived on down the street from us. The teacher at the school asked each child if they had any brothers or sisters at home.  My little one said she had three brothers.  The driver knew I only had one child, so she asked my daughter where I kept her three brothers.  She said I kept  them under the house.  Today, they would probably have believed the four year old and it would have become an explosive situation.  Thankfully, it was recognized as just a figment of a child’s imagination!

Since I became a widow, most of my adult life has been spent taking care of young teen girls who found themselves in an emergency care situation in homes for unwed mothers.   God can use a mother’s love to help anyone in need of that particular kind of love.  I praise the Lord that He chose to surround me over the years with hundreds of girls to impact with the love of Jesus.  My only daughter is a  Pastor’s wife and she and her husband are Marriage Counselors to many couples here and abroad.  

God knows all of our abilities and gifts because He gave them to us.  We just need to be willing to follow His lead and guidance.

Thank you for reading this,

Great Granny Witt                  

Wednesday, May 20, 2015

The Roles and Responsibilities of a Grandmother, Lois, the Grandmother of Timothy

When your children become parents, you automatically have another role to fulfill.  You don’t stop being  a mother, but you now have the added joy of being a grandmother.  You also have the responsibility to be a Godly influence on another generation.

As I peruse my present role as a great grandmother, I realize it all started with being a mother first, then a grandmother.  Now, three generations later, there is a possibility of my being a great, great, grandmother. The benefits are fabulous; as are the responsibilities.  If your own grandchildren live nearby, look around your church family and see who you might also bless as a pseudo, or substitute grandmother.  Many of my great grandchildren’s friends call me “Granny”.  They are also included in our “Sunday Hugs”.  This is what I definitely call “medicine for the soul!”

Paul said to Timothy –

2 Timothy 1:5 – “When I call to remembrance the genuine faith that is in you, which dwelt first in your grandmother, Lois and your mother, Eunice, and I am persuaded is in you also.”

I am acutely aware that I am to be entirely trustworthy in my walk with Jesus.  I must honor the Lord in all my deeds and actions.  If I make a promise to one of these children, I must follow through and make it happen.  Because I know I can depend on God for everything I need, they need to know they can depend on me to do what I say I will do.  Of course, unseen circumstances, such as illness, can change plans.  We  have an obligation to let them know ahead of time and reschedule for the future. This is a way of letting  them know we respect their feelings.

We also need to have a positive attitude toward life.  No “poor me” vibes but an attitude of contentment in whatever state I am.  As Paul told the Church at Philippi:

Philippians 4: 11, 12, & 13 – “Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content. I know how to be abased and I know how to abound.  Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.  I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

In the whole book of Philippians, there is a pattern of life to follow that will result in a peaceful, close relationship with God and others.

2 Corinthians 2:15 – “For we are to God the fragrance of Christ among those  who are being saved and among those who are perishing.”

Galatians 5:16 – “We are to walk in the Spirit and not in the flesh to bring honor and glory to God’s name and be a blessing and influence on others for  Jesus; to draw them near to Him.”

As you walk through life, seeking the will of God and His guidance, there will be a steadfast path for you to follow.  No short cuts or wrong turns will be accepted.

Proverbs 3: vs. 5,  & 6 – “  Trust in the Lord with all of your heart, And lean not on our own  understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, an He shall direct your paths.”

Thank you for reading this

Great Granny  Witt

Monday, May 11, 2015

The Roles and Responsibilities of a Mother: Naomi, the Mother-in-law of Ruth

Naomi must have been a loving, caring person when her sons were still alive.  I think that is why her daughter-in-law, Ruth, wanted to stay with Naomi, in lieu of returning to her own family after her husband had died.  When we read the Book of Ruth, we see that choice had a great effect on the future life of Ruth.

I, personally was blessed with a mother-in-law who loved, liked and respected me.  And, praise the Lord, my feelings for her were mutual! After my father-in-law died, I encouraged my husband to do everything he could to lighten the load his mother now carried.  He helped her dig her garden each Spring and also took care of any maintenance her home required.  One day, when I was visiting her, we were laughing together.  Her phone rang and she was still laughing .  She was  asked if she was laughing with one of her daughters.  To my surprise, she replied, “No, my daughter-in-law is here. We laugh a lot!" She also realized her son and I needed to make our own decisions together and respected our privacy.  When my husband died at an early age, we were able to grieve together.  We were also able to recall all the happy memories we had of him.

Now, I am a mother-in-law.  I live in my own suite of rooms in my son-in-law’s and my daughter’s house.  The good things I learned from my mother-in-law I can now put into practice.
She is no longer with us, but hopefully her example to me lives on in me, my daughter, my granddaughter and my great granddaughters.  I honored her when she was alive.  Now my family also honors her memory.

Ruth 1:16,17 – “But Ruth said “Entreat me not to leave you, Or to turn back from following after you; For wherever you go, I will go .  And wherever you lodge, I will lodge;  Your people shall be my people, And your God,my God.  Where you die, I will die.  And there will I be buried.  The Lord do so to me, and more also, If anything but death parts you and me.”

Ruth committed her loyalty to Naomi for her entire life.  God rewarded Ruth with a privileged position in the lineage of David and Christ. She is the great grandmother of David.   God takes our loyalty and kindness to others very seriously.  So should we.

Thank you for reading this,

Great Granny Witt

Wednesday, May 6, 2015

The Roles and Responsibilities of a Mother (Eve, the very first mother)

We all know that April showers bring May flowers.  We also know that the month of May brings honor and tribute to all mothers.  As a mother, step-mother, mother-in-law, grandmother, great grandmother and also as a substitute mother, I have been privileged to fill diverse roles.  As a Christian, I also have experienced that when the Lord gives you a specific duty to perform, He provides everything you need to fulfill that role.  Can you imagine Eve’s predicament as the very first wife and mother?  No instructions and no role models to advise her.

Gen. 3:20 – “And Adam called his wife’s name “Eve’, because she was the mother of all living.”

Gen. 4:1 –   “Now Adam knew his wife and she conceived and bore Cain and said “I have acquired a man from the Lord.”

It is a blessing and a privilege to give birth to a child and have a part in bringing a  tiny, new human into this world , as well as being an influence or mentor to a child you have not birthed.

Proverbs 31:28 – “Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her.”

When Jesus hung on the cross, He turned over the care of His mother to John whom He knew could be trusted.

John 19:26, 27 – “  When Jesus therefore saw His mother and the disciple whom He loved standing by, He said to His mother, “Woman, behold your son!”  Then He said to the disciple, “Behold your mother!”  And from that hour, that disciple took her to his own home.”

This next Sunday, May 10th has been designated and set aside as Mother’s Day this year.  If you know of a mother whose children appear to neglect her, or one whose children live too far away for any personal contact, please include her at your family’s dinner. She will be blessed and so will your family.  And remember that honoring your mother, or someone else’s mother is not a one day activity.  It is an every day obligation.

I praise and thank the Lord each day for the wonderful, loving family He has given me and I thank Him every day in prayer for each and everyone of them.


Thank you for reading this,

Great Granny Witt